Honesty, Love and Trust: The Key to a Lasting Relationship and Marriage!

Just as being sincere helps to attract sincerity, so does honesty attract honesty. We all lie. And that is the truth. But these lies slowly degrade our ability to be genuine, loving people. By covering up the truth, even about little things, we place a wall in between ourselves and those that might be a good match for us romantically.

We are not expressing our true selves and that is causing us to seem distant from others, even if they do not realize that we are lying. When we get caught in a lie, that's even worse for attracting a loving relationship; we are shown to be a liar, one that can not be trusted. And while that might not end a relationship, it does set the precedent that since we can lie, so can our partner.

Learning to be truthful was a long battle for one of my friends, Shawn. He wanted to be an honest person, but he did not believe that his life was interesting enough to make him attractive to women. So, he goes to the bars and tell anyone the listened about his 'amazing' life and all the adventures that he took.

That is, until he met Lisa. Lisa knew Shawn from the bar scene and always thought that he was a big-mouthed liar that only tried to impress everyone, but was never really himself.

So, one night when Shawn was talking again, Lisa called his bluff on a story he told.

Red-faced and embarrassed, Shawn quickly left the bar for the night.

When he got home, he began to see that maybe people could see that he was lying, and that he was a phony to boot. That did not sit well with him and he stayed at home for several weeks until he began to develop a sense of honesty in his life.

He started by being honest about how he felt in the morning, then about being honest in his job, and then being honest about things that happened in his life. He noticed that different people began to talk to him because of this new way of living.

And that these people were beautiful, the kinds of people that he had always wanted to find for his life. When we eventually went back to the bar, he saw Lisa sitting at her usually spot and asked if he could talk to her.

She nodded and they talked about the true stories of his life. She smiled and he smiled because he did not have to worry about keeping his stories straight anymore; they were his stories. And Lisa liked him for that. Frankly speaking, honesty builds trust and strengthens the relationship!

10 Secrets To A Happy Married Life

You can achieve a happy married life in a number of ways. Small things can help maintain peace and harmony at home while big decisions can harm the domestic atmosphere. While it almost impossible to agree with what the other says all time time, a couple should realise that it is possible to maintain peace even while arguing. Understand that a disagreement is temporary, and this small step alone can see your marriage through a variety of trials.

1. Know Your Partner Well

Developing awareness of your partner's tastes is among the keys to a happy married life. Your relationship can be shaped according to each other's preferences. When you are aware of your partner's dislikes, you can refrain from doing what will cause distress to your partner. This will ensure your partner that you are considerate of him or her, a factor that is of utmost importance in the successful achievement of marital harmony.

2. Make Decisions Together

Making decisions together is also a key to achieving happiness in marriage for three reasons. First, this practise enables the couple to work in collaboration to reach a decision. Second, both get equally involved in the decision making. Third, if only one person makes a decision that ultimately turns out to be a bad one, it could lead to resentment.

3. Balance Your Work and Life

You have to pay a lot of attention to your married life to ensure its success, which means that you should learn to balance between your career and personal life. Sometimes, you could get very much involved in your career and push married life to the background. You have to put in some effort to prevent this from happening.

You have to realize that there is no career in the world that holds as much importance as your married life. At the same time, it cannot be denied that sometimes you have to work at weekends and in the late evenings too. But make an honest attempt to minimize these situations.

Try not to bring your work home. In short, don't allow your career to interfere with your married life. If you place too much emphasis on your job, your marriage will naturally suffer. You can talk about your day at work or vent about some problem you might be facing with employers or colleagues, but otherwise, keep the office where it is and don't let it wreck your married life.

4. Don't Focus on Disagreements

All marriages have their share of problems and discords. It is important not to prolong an argument. If ever you disagree, try to come to a friendly conclusion. If this is impossible, at least agree to disagree and proceed with your married life.

Everyday is a new beginning. Forget the disagreements or arguments of the previous day when you wake up to each day. In spite of your honest attempts, if you were unable to work out a solution to the problem, forget about it and go on with new day harmoniously.

5. Agree on Financial Matters

Another key to a happy married life is to come to an agreement on financial issues. Financial matters create a lot discord in married life. Both partners should develop awareness about financial situations and establish a budget that is easy to stick to. This will prevent any arguments related to financial issues in married life.

6. Agree on Critical Issues before Marriage

Before getting married, know your partner well and discuss major issues. For instance, it will be disastrous to discover after marriage that your partner does not want any children while you want to become a parent. Differences of opinion on such crucial matters can utterly destroy a marriage. Make sure that you marry someone only after coming to an agreement about critical matters such as this. It will prevent problems cropping up in your married life in the future.

7. Don't Discuss Sensitive Issues

Keep away issues that might create discord in your married life. While it is perfectly alright to have opposing points of view regarding politics or religion, it is not acceptable to allow your differences in opinion to cause a split in your married life. You can enjoy a harmonious married life if you respect your partner and his or her opinions.

8. Give Each Other a Lot of Space

Give each other a lot of space to ensure a happy married life. Spending a lot of time with each other can be suffocated. So, it is as important to be apart as it is to be together and communicate matters pertaining to your interests. The time that you spend apart from each other not only protects the marriage but also enables each partner to retain his or her individuality.

9. Respect Your Spouse

Respecting your partner is of paramount importance in marriage. Couples that show a lot of respect to each other and to themselves can be civil to each other even during a disagreement. Respect always promotes peace and happiness in married life.

10. Share Household Chores

This is the greatest secret to a happy married life. A couple that shares domestic chores and goes out of the way to make things easy for each other ensure happiness and peace in their married life.

You will wreck your life if you don't help your spouse with domestic chores. You could also go as far as making a list of things to be done everyday and taking your share of the responsibility. It is not fair to burden one person with all the work; so a written document of the responsibilities that each partner has to shoulder will go a long way in protecting domestic peace.

Don't confuse harmony in married life with agreeing to everything that your spouse says. You don't have to agree to each and every issue to enjoy a peaceful and happy married life. Many factors contribute to the peace and happiness of a married life. Some might be crucial and some may be small, but they all play a major role in a harmonious marriage.

The Process of Deliberate Attraction

Below are some simple steps that will help you clarify what your real "wants" are. Further, it will help you in dealing with any doubts you have and help you overcome the Inner Critic.

1. Know what you want.
2. Visualize your wish
3. Be Alert

Know what you Want.
Be aware of what you want. Practice this. Take any topic like, discovering the ideal partner, creation of wealth, being a great author, buying your ideal house etc. This is my personal belief that the law of attraction will always work best when you want something that is helpful to others.

Visualise your wish as fulfilled.
Know what you want. To do this, you can list all things you wish. At times, you will know what you don’t want. Use this to know what you want. For example, if you know that you don’t want your house to be an hour away from office, you can use it to state that you want your house to be 10 minutes away from office. Make it sure that all you wish is stated in a positive manner. The next step is to visualize your wish as fulfilled. Just imagine what you would do or what the circumstance would be when your wish is fulfilled. If possible, imagine every tiny detail of such a situation.

Be Alert
Many a times, our Inner Critic makes us doubt our capability. When this happens, cut it at the root. Change your attitude. Do anything or activity that will break all your inhibitions. Go for a walk, a drive or divert yourself into activity in which you will get involved. This will make you ignore the Inner Critic. Another method is to just tell the voice to be silent.

To quell all self doubts appreciate all that you can find around you. Notice anything and everything, big or small and appreciate it. I have cultivated a habit of appreciating everything that happened the previous day before I begin my day. This make me love it more when I recollect all the wonderful things that happened the past day.

Be alert to opportunities that the universe provides us. Initially, when I came to know of Deliberate Attraction, I was under the impression that only thing I am expected to do is to think positive and I will be delivered what I wish in its exact form. But I was wrong. Nature will provide you all the ingredients and opportunities to grab and make the most. You have to be alert to recognize such an opportunity and use it for your benefit.

Each and every step in this process is crucial for the success of your attraction. I wish you all luck and success in your endeavor to attract what you want to make your life a lot better.

How to Realize Your Dreams

What do you dream about?

Do you feel that you are limited or tired? If yes, then it is time for you to begin realizing your dreams and desires. Believe in miracles. Hence ask yourself what you really wish for. Go for the biggest thing you have ever wanted. Feel that you have lot of opportunities because you have belief that you can achieve them. This way you encourage yourself to move in the direction of your goals. Carry this feeling of manifesting your dreams in your daily life.

Go beyond yourself.

If you always think low, you are bound to realize the same. If you aim for the top and think about it, you will attract the same. You will get what you ask for. Believe me this is very true. It is similar to shopping for clothes. You go to a store, choose what you want and take it home. Similar way is with your vision. Visualize what you want, think about it and you will get it for sure. You have the freedom to choose and make you life better.

What you need to do is stretch your impression about yourself. The way others see you will be far different from what you see yourself as. When your higher self takes control you don’t think limitedly. Aim for the highest and ask for help. When you do this you challenge the universe if this is the highest for you. this can be done for any goals and wishes that you want to fulfill.

Things that you ask are very minute for the universe.

Hence expand your perception. You just have to ask for it and everything will come to you. it might be difficult process to visualize but it is must for you to expand if you want to better your life. There will be areas where you need to grow, hence foucs on them and you will get a lot of assistance as to what to do about it. Make a note of each of your goals and explore the full possibility of realizing them.

Go for the largest and biggest. It will definitely come to you. when you stick to limits you will remain limited. Hence practice expanding your results. If you have noted down your dreams there is atleaslt those you can start working upon.

Look for things that are not allowing you to realize your dreams. It is because you don’t allow it to happen. Allow the universe to open up to you. open up to receive the love and care the universe bestows upon you. don’t shy away from anything. Receive everything that universe provides to you.

The more you laugh, the lighter you dance. You will see this in various ways it happens in life. You will laugh when you really notice how the puzzle gets solved by these small ways. Laughter, makes one relaxed.

Three Causes for Why Do You End Up Attracting Things you Don’t Wish

How many times have you faced a situation which you hoped you would never have to? I understand how frustrating it is to land up in such a situation. I believe there are causes for those things happening to us. Ever wondered what they could be? I give you 3 possible causes of why you attract what you don’t want.

1. Skewed Beliefs.
What you believe in or have faith in has a lot to do with what you attract. Don’t mistake beliefs and wants. They are completely different. It is possible that you crave for things, but in your heart and mind you know you are not qualified to have it. The beliefs that you have shapes your attitude.

2. Incorrect Attitude
Your beliefs lead you to behave and act in a particular fashion. Each action or task you have performed in your life has borne a result. There is an outcome always even if you don’t act. It is these actions and your attitude that has a big hand in attracting what you want. If they are appropriate to attract what you want, you will definitely have it, else you will never have it.

3. Accepting Defeat.
Perseverance is the key if you want to attract something. You can never attract what you want if you accept defeat before you get it. Achieving or getting something is certainly not easy, but accepting defeat is not the solution. You have to pursue it until you achieve your goal. There are a lot of sources from whom you could seek help. It could be a person who can be your coach or teacher or an accountability partner. On the other hand, it could be an arrangement of objects which will keep up your inspiration to continue working towards your goal.

The Number One Reason Why You Still Haven't Got What You Want

Ever wonder why you have not achieved your ultimate goal yet or why have you not lived the life you always dream of? Well here is the number one reason why? You have not changed your approach towards achieving it. I know what you are thinking right now, this is basic stuff, right? Let me add another basic stuff and common knowledge here for you - all of us know that if we do the same thing day in day out, month in month out and year in year out, we can rest assure that we will get the same result.

Even though this is basic stuff, how come there are people who still stuck at the lowest level in their lives even though they know about this "revealing" truth? Well, actually my friend we are not dealing with information or knowledge here, rather we are dealing with habit. So no matter what you do to achieve your goals in life, you will (by God's will) stuck at your phetatic status quo level if you don't change your habit for the better. In another words you are not going to get what you want if you do not change your approach towards achieving it.

Let me give you one simple example here.

Let say that you want to become the superstar of internet marketing, and one of the pre-requisites ('habits') to become the internet marketing superstar is to surf the internet looking for relevant information on internet marketing, read them and write down the lessons learned from these readings for at least 60 minutes everyday for 5 years in a row. Now, let say that your current habit with the internet is chatting about "sweet nothing" on Facebook every morning with your friends. Do you think that you will become the superstar of internet marketing if you do not do the above pre-requisite? Of course not, we all know this, but how come you still have not change it yet? Hmmm...wonder why?

OK here's why, in psychology we called this "illness" psycho sclerosis which means hardening of the attitude. But sometimes it can also caused by failure to delay gratification.

Now, what can we do about this? One word, DISCIPLINE. According to Merriam-Webster dictionary discipline is defined as control gained by enforcing obedience or order and an orderly or prescribed conduct or pattern of behavior.

So if you still want to become the superstar of internet marketing you MUST DISCIPLINE yourself to surf the internet looking for relevant information on internet marketing, read them and write down the lessons learned from these readings for at least 60 minutes everyday for 5 years in a row. Rain or shine YOU MUST DO IT.

So there you have it, the number one reason why you still haven't get what you want in life - it's not about what we know, it is about what we do with what we know.

Raise Your Vibration and Attract the Life That You Desire

Raising your vibration is simply one of the fastest ways to see the Law of Attraction in action in your life. If you start to feel good the universe will immediately begin aligning itself to bring you your desires and as long as you maintain that feeling it is possible that everything you want will show up in your life with lightening speed.

Unfortunately many people still do not understand the importance of this very simple practice and they go from seminar to seminar, book to book and guru to guru because they think, just as I did at one time, that there is something that they do not know, so they find themselves continually searching for the Missing Ingredient, the one elusive piece of information that will take them to where they want to be.

Being positive and keeping your vibration levels high enables you to attract your desires quickly and efficiently, if you are deliberately trying to attract something and your vibration is low you will most likely get poor results, often you will get exactly the opposite to what you wanted. So it is important to keep your spirit up lifted, keep your mood light and happy and be sure to keep your thoughts positive.

How do you go about raising your level of vibration?

Watch the company you keep - there are many negative people in world and if you spend your time associating with them you will be sucked down into a pool of negative talk that will assure you of attracting negative situations. It is much easier for a negative person to pull you down than it is for you to pull them up.

Surround yourself with joy - spend your time doing the things you enjoy with the people you enjoy. We all at times must do things that we do not particularly enjoy doing but not many people go out of their way to plan events that they do enjoy. Do not make the negative your primary focus. Make an effort to bring joy into your day. It does not have to be a huge activity it could be as simple as going for a stroll, as long as it is something you enjoy.

Limit media intake - we all know how negative the media can be. Newspapers, TV and the Internet alike can easily fill your mind with images of doom and gloom. Make a conscious effort to limit the amount of news that you watch. Take that half an hour that you would normally spend watching the evening news and read and uplifting book, play with your kids or chat with your spouse. It is entirely up to you how much negative information you consume, you have the power to limit it and spend your time feeding your mind with information that will lift your spirit and help you to grow.

Seek out positive influences and people - take a look at the things and people that influence you. Are they mostly positive? If they are then great, but if not make a decision to surround yourself with information, people and events that will help you to improve your life.